Sunday, June 24, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 5

Replenish, fresh and new, are just a few words to describe my exact feelings at this present moment. Didn't start my day feeling that way though. In fact, I felt irritated, upset and angry. Funny how the devil works. Transparent moment for me today is that I work hard at being the best me that I know how to be but sometimes, my mood can alter depending on who is my presence. Which is reassurance that my relationship with God needs work. I say that because NO ONE absolutely NO ONE should ever be able to steal your joy or alter your mood, especially in a way that does not represent Godly behavior. I feel like there are some people in my life that bring out the good in me, yet there are others who can change my whole vibe when they are in my presence. In knowing that, one can say...well remove them out of your life and in some instances removing negative factors would probably be ideal as well as beneficial. In that same regard, should it be that easy to walk away from people? 

I often battle with the question mentioned above, especially when those people include other attachments. Then I tell myself that it is best to seek guidance from God because sometimes when you are in your feelings, one can make decisions immaturely, that go against what God would have you to do. My goal is to be upgraded from dealing with people rudely when they have wronged me, to dealing with people more gently and showing them kindness despite of how they may treat me. You see the way you treat others despite of how they treat you also shows signs of maturity, strength and that you have developed spiritually. Like yes you pissed me off but you know what, I'm going to smile despite of, I'm going to have joy despite of and I'm going to keep praising God despite of because I know he will work it all out on my behalf! That is my aim in #BecomingaBetterme growing internally and learning that I'm in charge of my own happiness. I want to be so spiritually connected with God that my faith never waivers and my joy never ceases. My prayer today is that if there are others like me struggling to stay joyful, that you seek the only one that can make you better internally and that's God. Seek God daily and allow God to direct you every path, your every thought and your every action.

Today is Day 5 of the #BecomingaBettermechallenge and I've prayed quite a few times today and trust me, it was much needed. I also visited Triumph Church today their Eastland Campus and got in a much needed word and was blessed to hear Todd Dulaney sing in the service. I promise it is always good to be in the presence of the Lord and to praise where one or more are gathered. I worked out early this morning and worked primarily on the lower body, following a 10 minute workout video I found on YouTube check it out! In addiction to the 10 minute workout, I also added in 25 right leg lifts, 25 left leg lifts and a 30 second wall sit squat. My scripture for today will be Romans Chapter 12 KJV. Remember despite of anything keep working on #BecomingaBetteryou as I work on #BecomingaBetterme #yougotthis #dontgiveup #keepgoing and tell others to join the movement! Oh yeah, last but not least smile! Smiling is so good for the soul!

Saturday, June 23, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 4

If you're like me you probably ask yourself often "when will I win"? You've been putting in the work but still the results are not what you expect. Everyday you push yourself a little harder hoping that this time you will finally get what you want. Can I be transparent with you for a moment? I'm not just talking about your workout plan but do you know that the statement mentioned above can be related to so many other things in life. For example in my case, I work hard to be a good wife, a good mother and good friend but often no matter how good I try to be I fail sometimes. That is just the reality of life and relationships. You win some and you lose some but you must never lose hope.

Today is Day 4 of the #BecomingaBettermechallenge and I pray you all are excelling at being a better you! Today I started my day with a cup of my "Flat Tummy Water", got my Marvin Sapp Pandora station going, my yoga mat layed out with my set of 10 pounds dumbbells and hit play on this awesome 10 minute workout video I found on Youtube! Check it out below!

Honestly speaking, those 10 minutes felt like I had just done an hour long workout. I wanted to target my abs today and sweat so of course I had on my waist trainer as I worked out. Once I finished the 10 minute workout I added 50 squats using the dumbbells and 60 leg lifts because as you know I'm trying to keep the little butt I have left lol! I did a prayer befor the workout as well as after. Then doing breakfast I watched a sermon by Pastor Michael Todd titled "Grace For The Faithful", you should check that out as well! The message given in that sermon was beyond refreshing and Pastor Todd teaching is impeccable! In just a few I will be reading Galatians 6 the King James version #dailyscripture. Remember 30 days of prayer, 30 days of working out, 30 days of scripture reading and 30 days of transparency! Join the movement #yougotthis #keepgoing #dontgiveup

My theory is just like what Pastor Michael Todd stated "Substaining Grace is just as amazing as Saving Grace". Don't allow the pressure of where everyone else is in their journey deter you off the path of where God is taking you. So again whatever your goal is don't stop! #BecomingaBetterme

Friday, June 22, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 3

Rise and shine! I'm feeling beyond bless on today! The joy I feel is something sure of amazing! Today is day 3 of the #BecomingaBettermechallenge and today was another missed day at the gym but of course there was no missed workout. I repeated day 2 exercises as well day 2 breakfast. It is Friday and in my house that is family fun day! So I will be getting my little ones out today and enjoying this beautiful day that God has given us. My transparency moment today is dedicated to my baby boy aka Prince Nasir who was born with a heart condition called SVT (Super-ventricular Tachycardia). Nasir had to stay in the hospital after he was born for almost 3 weeks and placed on two different heart medications. When Nasir was released from NICU he had to come home with a Pulse Oximetry machine so that we could monitor his heartrate and oxygen 24 hours. I also have to manual check his heartrate 3 times a day before giving him the medications but today we received good news! Check out the video below!

Can you say bless? My family and I are too excited because God has been so great to us! Let today be a lesson in knowing that as long as you keep your faith and put in the work the results of your great works will show. On today I repeated Day 2 workouts as well as breakfast  which was 60 jumping jacks, 50 squats with 10 pound dumbbells, 30 second wall sit squat, 1 minute of Russian twists, 50 crunches, 60 second plank, 60 left leg lifts, 60 right leg lifts, 25 reverse left leg lifts and 25 reverse right leg lifts. What I did differently today was implement this "Flat Tummy Water" into my daily regimen as well as a waist trainer. I actually heard about it from an Instagram post and decided to try it. It consist of 6 cups of filtered water, 1 lemon, 1/3 cup of mint leaves, 1 tbsp. of grated ginger and 1 cucumber slice. You have to allow the mixture to set overnight before drinking it. The benefits of "Flat Tummy Water" is that it helps reduces cravings, it hydrates the body, helps clean the digestive tract and prevents bloating. There are some negative side effects as well but nothing serious but still do your own research and as with anything including working out, make sure you consult with your Doctor first. Now if you haven't already get Day 3 of #BecomingaBettermechallenge out the way and make sure to pray and read your daily scripture! Until next time remember #yougotthis #dontgiveup #stayfocus


Thursday, June 21, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 2

Reality is I'm not always able to make it to the gym but everyday like clock work I'm up at 5 a.m. Great time to hear the birds chirping and the sound of peace because at this time the children are still sleeping. For a woman like me who is goal oriented, I don't allow missing the gym to stand in the way of my daily workout. Get yourself a yoga mat, a couple of dumb bells and hit play on your phone's Pandora or listen to music on YouTube and you're good to go! Yes, it's more refreshing to go to the gym and be surrounded by other go getters but you must learn to be your own motivator.

One may say but I have children and they sometimes get in the way. Well I know the feeling all too well. In fact, while my 5 month old was sleeping, my two year old decided to wake up earlier than expected...whelp there goes my workout and much needed me time. Seriously, you can't be kidding me! It should never be that easy to give up. You have a goal right? You want that Teyana Taylor and Beyoncé body right? You want that Michael B. Jordan body right? Well...maybe that's just my way of thinking. Every person body goal may be different and that is fine, for some it may just be a getting healthy goal. After conversing with myself, I decided to just allow my two year old to joined me. As I did my crunches he sat on top of my stomach #weightresistance. When I did my jumping jacks he did his too, I kept him moving which will eventually get him tired lol. I say this all to say, that regardless of the circumstance, don't make excuses!

Today is Day 2 of the #BecomingaBettermeChallenge and I did my daily workout which included 60 jumping jacks, 50 squats with 10 pound dumbbells, 30 second wall sit squat, 1 minute of Russian twists, 50 crunches, 60 second plank, 60 left leg lifts, 60 right leg lifts, 25 reverse left leg lifts and 25 reverse right leg lifts. I did my prayer for today but I'm sure I will be praying again. I also read scriptures today from 2 Kings Chapter 8. No particular order just asked God to lead me. My transparency moment is that sometimes in life, things don't always go as you plan them to and that can be frustrating. The good in things not going as planned is that you learn to find solutions, therefore you gain perseverance. #stayfocus #don'tgiveup #yougotthis #BecomingaBetterme

Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Becoming a Better Me - Day 1

Almost 30 and the body I once had is slowly but surely resurfacing! Well everything except my breast lol! Them bad boys once was perky but now they as flat as a pancake thanks to breastfeeding! What's good for the baby is not always good for you. No but seriously, can't say it has been an easy journey this whole "exercising" thing because what I once loved I pushed away and "exercising" became a thing of my past. Besides, after two children bouncing back becomes a little harder. I often asked myself what I was thinking having two children back to back. Poor body didn't have any time to recoup. Then again, guess it's best that I got having children out the way, so that now when I get my body back on fleek, I won't have to worry about a do over lol!

March 29th, 3 months postpartum is when I begin this workout journey. One step closer to becoming a better me and the time away from the house isn't too bad neither. The picture on the top left represents day one of my journey and the other two are from today. Can you say progress? Still have further to go but being a mom of two, a toddler and 5 month old as well as a Playwright/Writer with a freshly new entertainment business, I must say I'm doing pretty darn good! What are your goals? Are you trying to get yourself together both mentally and physically? If so follow me and stay tune as I take you on my own personal journey to Becoming a Better me! Matter of fact, join me! Lets do 30 days of workout, mixed with 30 days of transparency, 30 days of scriptures and 30 days of prayer! Now claim it in advance that You my Friend are becoming better! #BecomingaBetterme #day1

Saturday, April 4, 2015

Analyzing Strategies Used in an Advocacy Post

In writing my “Technology is taking Over” piece I decided that speaking truthfully as to why I felt the way I did would be the best approach. I wanted to incorporate some of my own personal experiences so that my readers could see things from my perspective, while also taking a step back to reflect on their own lives and how technology may or may not consume them.

I aimed to used all three appeals which included ethos, pathos and logos. Ethos require one to show credibility and my credibility was shown in my truth and when I revealed my personal experiences to my audience. Logos was given in my piece/post when I incorporated percentages found based on another person article on phone usage. Pathos was used in all that I wrote because I express why I felt so strongly about the use of technology interrupting our relationships among each other as well as family.

When it comes to writing an advocate posting or anything arguing against a certain topic, in my opinion logos will always be used the most. For me logos appeal works best primarily because it is easy to connect emotionally with an idea you have so much to say about. Logos also works for the readers because by breaking down your view points, it allows one to fully understand the message. In all, if one is choosing to advocate against any subject or matter, one must first state their reasons, break down their view points, give examples and make sure others can relate to what it is you are discussing.

Thursday, March 26, 2015

Persuasive Bloggers

The "Science of Persuasion" exposed many truths about the ways many of us work when it comes to persuasion. The six keys mentioned in persuading readers were:
  • Reciprocity
  • Scarcity
  • Authority
  • Consistency
  • Liking
  • Consensus
These six keys can be used for sales, gaining readers, or whatever it is that you need because these keys influence one to "Say Yes". We can practically uses these six keys in our everyday life but when it comes to blogging, I feel that not all of these keys will work. The ones that I do feel are relevant to blogs is authority, consistency and liking.
  • Authority is having knowledge about any given subject so that your readers are more willing to listen. If you are blogging about Love for example, what knowledge do you have for someone to listen to your expertise. Are you married? How long have you been married? These questions and the answers to them can show your readers rather or not you have authority on the subject you are writing about.
  •  Consistency one must be consistent when blogging in order to gain a following, well if that is the aim of course. If you are blogging to reach a certain audience, to be heard or to share a message I will assume you will want others to respond to what you are writing, therefore consistency is key. Blogging only once or twice a month will not get you many followers.
  • Liking in the "Science of Persuasion" states that people who are similar basically connect more. If you are showing your personality in what you write, you will more than likely gain a following of people who think like you and act like you.
Of all the three keys I have chosen, that I believe are important when it comes to blogging "liking" in my opinion is the most important. I'm not saying that one must like you in order to read your work but at the same time, rather you write positively or negatively, if you are using your true authentic voice and writing as you really speak, more people take a liking to that response and that in turns makes one want to read more of what you write. We can find ways to use all these keys when it comes to blogging but it ultimately up to the writer on how they wish to reach their audience but for me if one would like you, based on how you write and appeal to them and that to me is where the "liking" key comes into play.

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Reading of "The Art of Influence"

Honesty, having a conscious, and being able to remove the mask are some of the subjects “The Art of Influence” discusses. Why are the above key ideas to be a good essayist? Do readers really care if what one writes is their honest truth? These are the questions I ask myself when writing and I’m sure many others ask themselves those same questions. I often place myself in the shoes of a reader and ask myself what it that I’m looking for when reading others work as well as my own. I must say I agree with much of what “The Art of Influence” discusses. I laughed as I read the line in the essay stating that “A contract between the writer and reader has been drawn up, the essayist must then make good on it by delivering or discovering as much honesty as possible.” A contract really? I always thought a contract had to written out and signed by both parties because when I think of contracts, I think in the legal form. However, apart of me understands his theory and I as well understand that what the statement is saying is primarily fact, that one must write honestly keeping the reader in mind. I believe that statement also is stating that when one fails to write honestly, they in turn lose their readers.

“We must remove the mask.”

“The spectacle of baring the naked soul is meant to awaken the sympathy of the reader.”

My conscious doesn’t allow me to anything but honest in my writing. Choosing not to be does not set right with me because I feel that people can sense when you are being honest or just saying whatever sounds good. My thoughts on the subject of being able to remove the mask in my opinion, means being able to open up to your readers. The way to open up is simply baring it all as the second quotes states. How do we bare it all when there may be something one is afraid for the public eye to take notice of? Just do it, is what I will say. We will always in one way or another worry about what revealing ourselves may mean to others. We will always be afraid of the unknown. We will always feel that allowing our readers to know who we really are, means we are allowing them to judge us. If that is the case the best way to get over all of those issues is to simply as stated above “Do It”. “There is one thing the essayist cannot do-he cannot indulge himself in deceit or in concealment.” Another quote in “The Art of Influence” states “The conscience of the personal essay arises from the author’s examination of his or her prejudices.” Until we put ourselves out there in an honest way we are basically showing that our own prejudices influences our capability of writing openly, where then is our credibility?

“The Art of Influence” applies to ability as a writer because all of what was stated appealed to me. The messages appeal to me because the writer being described is the type of writer I aim to be. When I write I write for understanding and write so that others reading can see me and get to know through my writing. I try to connect with my readers so that they can take into perspective the message I’m aiming to get across. Reading “The Art of Influence” was a great way of allowing me to understand why being honest is best and universally should be our whole life’s way of thinking.