Wednesday, July 18, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 29

Your body is a fortress and temple, treat it as such. Ever wonder why it's hard to get up in the morning? Ever had to endure aching pains from sore muscles? Ever felt like you couldn't get back up after bending down or sitting too long? Ever get tired from doing something that doesn't require a lot of muscle movement or even from less strenuous activities? Ever pulled a muscle from picking up something that didn't even weight much? Ever found yourself having a lack of energy?

If any of the above is something you struggled with, it may be time to change your routine and add some form of exercise to your life. I understand that working out does not fit into everyone's life style for whatever reason but exercising can assist in helping with a lot of the above struggles. Of course eating right plays a part in a healthy life style as well. Many of us for the most part, have the desire to exercise but not the "time". Great news for those with busy schedules is that there are many 5 minute exercises that you can do located on YouTube! EVERYONE has at-least 5 minutes to spare especially when it relates to health. Disclaimer, many of the 5 minutes workouts are just as effective when done right than the longer workouts, so NO EXCUSES

Transparent moment...I've always enjoyed the idea of being fit and healthy but hated working out. However, there were many times I would be short of breathe from just walking up the street to visit friends. There would be times where I had absolutely no energy to do anything and would be tired often. Then there was a time for a brief moment where I started to gain more weight than I wanted and it was at that point where exercising became a part of my life style. I'm going to be honest starting is hard and for the first two weeks you will be sore but if you can push yourself to get past that initial discomfort, you will be proud of yourself for sticking to your workout regimen.

If you not sweating, you not working!

The Abdominal Machine I Used today

The Hyperextension Machine I used for the Side Sit-Ups
Today is Day 29 for the #BecomingaBettermechallenge, so that means we are just 1 day away from completion! I'm so proud of you all for choosing to be conquers of #BecomingaBetteryou! My workout today took place at the gym and of course I was sporting my waist trainer! My workout included 11 minutes of light cardio on the Elliptical at a speed of 6, 90 Leg Press on the Hack Squat machine with 50lbs of added weights, 30 Side Sit Ups R/L wit 10lbs weight using the Back Hyperextension machine, 20 Crunches using the Abdominal machine, 60 Squats using two 10lbs dumbbells, 30 Push-Ups, 1 minute Russian Twists, 2 minute Scissors, 20 Trunk Rotations, 20 Standing Bicycle Crunches, 30 second Mountain Climbers, 20 Bicycle Crunches, 30 second Plank and 30 second Abdominal Stretch. (Please consult with your Doctor before doing any exercise!) My prayer for today has been done and the scripture I read was 1 Corinthians Chapter 6 KJV. My hope is that we all learn to incorporate some form of exercise into our lives, even if it's by doing little things like choosing to take the stairs instead of elevator or walking instead of driving. There are many great benefits when it comes to working out like getting fit, losing weight, gaining energy, etc. The most important benefit of them all however, is that exercising is the only natural supplement that can aid your body both mentally and physically so #jointhemovement and keep working on #BecomingaBetteryou as I work on #BecomingaBetterme #keepgoing #dontgiveup #yougotthis

Tuesday, July 17, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 28

What are your expectations in this life? What do you inspire to gain? Speaking for self my expectations in this life is to live purposefully. I want to show those in my life what true living looks like. I want to be able to do all that God has set out for me to do, nothing less. I want to be able trust mankind openly. I want to be able to bring more disciples to God.

I inspire to gain faith that never waivers. I inspire to always be hopeful no matter what the circumstance is. I inspire to create change among people even if it's one person that I can change beginning with myself. I inspire to always and only turn to God to be my stronghold. I inspire to make a difference and be the light in this world of darkness. I inspire to raise Godly men and to be a godly woman, living a holy life according to the word of God.

Transparent moment...when I was seven years old I went to church for the first time with my Dad girlfriend at the time and I instantly begin to love God. From that day on I would literally take the bible everywhere I went. I can recall times I was in elementary school during lunch and me choosing to read the bible instead of playing. I remember when I made the decision to stop listening to secular music when in middle school. I can recall times when my cousin and I would walk around the neighborhood looking to find a church home. I also remember the many times I would feel condemned for making any wrong move and it was at that point in my life where I begin to turn away from God because I knew I was no longer worthy, at-least in my head. I believed then that I had to be perfect for God. Get this, it wasn't until recently that I learned about God's grace and that no matter what I do, God will always love me!

Today is Day 28 for the #BecomingaBettermechallenge and my workout took place at home today. (Please consult with your Doctor before doing any exercises!) My workout today consist of a quick stretch, 20 Push -Ups, 100 squats using resistant tubes, 1 minute of Russian Twist, 20 Sit-Ups, 1 minute of Scissors, 20 Arm Curls using two 10lbs dumbbells, 30 second Flutter Kicks, 30 second Mountain Climbers, 20 Reverse Crunches, 20 Cross Arm Crunches, 20 Bent Leg Twist, 20 Clapping Crunches, 30 second Plank and 30 second Abdominal Stretch. I've also started back drinking the "Flat Tummy Water" and I wear my waist trainer every time I workout. The results that I'm aiming for have not fully arrived as you will see in the video below but my butt is siting up more and I'm starting to gain muscles in my legs, thighs and arms. However, my biggest battle as far as the physical is my stomach, although it's much better than where I was, there is still more muscle toning needed in that area. With patience and continuation I'm certain I will get where I want physically and mentally and I'm certain that you will too!

Happy for Progress!
My prayer today has been completed and the scripture I will be reading is James Chapter 1 NIV. My hope is that every last one of us will work just as hard at building a relationship with God as we do for earthly relationships. I pray that what we want in life we claim it, speak it and bring it all into fruition. As you work on #BecomingaBetteryou and I work on #BecomingaBetterme I pray we get others to #jointhemovement as we continue to live this life being the best that we can, knowing that we are loved by God just the way we are. Knowing that in time as long as we keep God first he will manifest something within us beyond what we can ever hope for or imagine and our past will be no more so #keepgoing #dontgiveup #yougotthis

Monday, July 16, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 27


Depression as define by Webster dictionary is "a mood disorder marked especially by sadness, inactivity, difficulty in thinking and concentration, a significant increase or decrease in appetite and time spent sleeping, feelings of dejection and hopelessness and sometimes suicidal tendencies". What many don't know about depression is that it's often hidden, not discussed and masked behind a smile. Depression is common and definitely something no one should be ashamed of. Many times depression is brought on by stress, the need to be perfect, after childbirth, after the death of a love one and sometimes depression has no cause behind it. Depression can have you feeling like you are not yourself. Depression can cause you to push those close to you away.

Depression can have you crying without a reason why. Depression steals your drive, passion and excitement about life. Depression can have you feeling like everything and everyone is against you. Depression does not bring out the best in you but the worst. Depression can last for a moment or years if untreated. Depression is serious and if you or anyone you know is dealing with depression I encourage you to seek help from your Doctor, friends, family or by contacting one of the numbers listed below. Depression just like the images of the Emoji's above can take you through many different phases.

Transparent moment...there was a period in my life years ago where I dealt with depression. I would cry for no reason at all and didn't feel like doing anything. I shut everyone out of my life and felt disappointed in myself often. I allowed situations in my life to get the best of me and I became the worst version of myself. Depression almost took my life but by the grace and love of God I'm still here. Too often I hear that a person claiming to be depress is seeking attention. Let me say this no one wants that much attention and if we can learn to uplift one another and put our own pride aside we can maybe save someone's life. I'm no psychiatrist but what I am is a woman with many testimonies.

Today is Day 27 for the #BecomingaBettermechallenge and I thank God for where he is taking me in life. My workout today with primary focus on my core included 25 Push-ups, 80 Squats using a resistant tube, 30 second Flutter Kicks, 20 Standing Bicycle Crunches, 40 seconds of Mountain Climbers, 20 Side Leg Raises left side, 20 Side Leg Raises right side, 20 Bicycle Crunches, 20 Clapping Crunches, 30 second Abdominal Stretch and 25 Sit Ups. My prayer has been done for today and the scripture I read was Psalms Chapter 46 NIV.

Despite of any challenges we may face in life I know that my God is a healer. Doing my fight with depression I NEVER took medication but what I did do was get closer to God. I made God my go to person for EVERYTHING! Whenever I would feel down I would instantly get down on my knees and pray! I learned to fight the enemy with positive affirmations reminding myself daily about my awesomeness. Now I'm not against taking medications, seeing a therapist or psychiatrist or whatever route you decide to take because everybody situation is different, so please do what's best for you and your health. What I am saying however is that most times depression is brought on due to lack. Lack of self-love, lack of God, lack of family, lack of income and more. Figure out the source, turn to God and seek help. As you work on #BecomingaBetteryou and I work on #BecomingaBetterme I pray that we all try our best to be the light in this world full of darkness and be true reflections of what God's love looks like. You never know how your positivity and beautiful spirit can help someone so #keepgoing #dontgiveup #yougotthis God bless #jointhemovement!

National Suicide Prevention Helpline: 1-800-273-TALK
Postpartum Depression: 1-800-PPD-MOMS
Depression Hotline Support Group: 1-800-826-3632

Sunday, July 15, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 26

Real Love

Real Love
"Real love keeps your heart smiling!"

Nothing makes the heart smile the way that real love does. Love real love, is more than just a feeling but the essence of who you are. To say the words "I love you" means that outside of yourself you have decided to remove the lock placed on your heart to allow another person inside. Love real love brings out the best in you. Love real love makes you feel like you are on top of the world. Love real love is an indescribable feeling that has you on cloud nine. Love real love speaks truth and only the truth to you. Love real love feels like peace. Love real love awakens you internally and externally keeps you smiling. Love real love does not hold the truth hostage. Joy resides in real love.

Love real love is not pain. Love real love does not make you question yourself. Love real love is not pushed by the external you but the internal you. Love real love is never hidden. Love real love is never manipulated. Love real love is never just pleasure but so much more. Lust is not real love. Transparent moment...I've been in-love before with someone who did not love me back the way that I loved them. What they loved was the external part of me and how I made them feel physically. I'm certain that my character played a role in their attraction to me but all in all you will always know when someone has real love for you because you wouldn't even have to ask and it's shown through action.

Today is Day 26 of the #BecomingaBettermechallenge and I feel bless and highly favored! My workout today while wearing my waist trainer consisted of a quick stretch, 25 Push-ups, 70 Squats, 2 minute Russian twist, 1 minute Leg Flutters, 25 Bent Leg Twist, 25 Cross Arm Crunches, 25 Bicycle Crunches, 30 second Plank, 30 second Abdominal Stretch, 25 Trunk Rotations, 35 Reverse Crunches and 25 Standing Bicycle Crunches. (Please consult with your Doctor before doing any exercise!) My prayer today was done and I was also able to enjoy praise and worship at Grace Christian Church. My scripture reading for today will be Job Chapter 20 NIV.

Understand my loves that the desire and want of real love is always there, as well as the cravings of having real love but along with it all is the essence of the truth and the truth is sometimes real love is one sided and not reciprocated. For in that moment once you learn the type of love you are dealing with it, you can decide at that moment what is best for you. The beauty in it all is that even if real love is never given in any relationship you encounter, know that God is real love and God's love is enough. As you work on #BecomingaBetteryou and I work on #BecomingaBetterme I pray that we all learn to decipher what real love details and never settle because you deserve the best kind of love in relationships and nothing less. Keep in mind that as long you keep God in the center "real love" will always prosper! #jointhemovement #keepgoing #yougotthis #dontgiveup

Saturday, July 14, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 25

Cycles are said to be "a series of events that are regularly repeated in the same order". Are there cycles in your family history that you aim to break? Do you find yourself consistently back in the same type of relationships you work hard to avoid? Do you see yourself repeating past behaviors not understanding fully how you ended up back at step 1? Often in life people as a whole fight hard to do the opposite of what those before have done, especially if our experiences of them were not all good. We tell ourselves after we face turmoil, that we will never again do what we got ourselves in trouble doing. When we make mistakes we vow to never repeat those mistakes. When we have worked in a particular field that we didn't necessarily like we vow to never do that kind of job again. When we've dated particular types of individuals who were blankly not good for us, we vow to never put ourselves in those types of relationships again. So many times we speak to ourselves, telling ourselves what we will never do again. We say these things to ourselves hoping to set ourselves free from "generational curses", past mistakes and never ending cycles of repeated situations and addictions it seems we can't shake. 

Many of us for the most part have pure hearts and great intentions to do right and live right but sometimes history repeats itself. These repeated cycles occur because we haven't took the time to figure out what the root cause is inside of us, that brings on the relapse. Hypothetically speaking, we can blame repeated cycles on the misfortunes of our past experiences but when it all boils down, each of us have the power to break those cycles. Transparent moment...I grew up in a broken home. My Dad left my mother when I was almost 2 years old. I can recall many men coming in and out my mother's life and therefore with them coming in her life, they became a part of our lives. I can recall there being only two men who respected her and treated her right. Long story short because I saw so many men come in and out my mother's life and because I came from a broken home, I wanted different. So I didn't date many men and I made sure to wait until marriage before bringing any children into this world. I refused to start a family with anybody who was not my husband because I feared my children having to experience what I experience growing up. Isn't it true though that sometimes the same situations we vow to never go through we end up going through anyway or the opposite we don't go through them but allow ourselves to settle in what may not be the ideal situation because we are afraid of going through those same "generational cycles"?

Today is Day 25 and I feel bless and energize! My workout today took place in the comfort of my own home (please consult with your Doctor before doing any exercises). Today's workout included a quick stretch, Trunk Rotations 20 reps, Standing Bicycle Crunches 15 reps, Reverse Crunches 15 reps, Cross Arm Crunches 20 reps, Bent Leg Twist 18 reps, Clapping Crunches 18 reps, 30 sec Plank, 30 sec Abdominal Stretch, 40 Arm Curls using two 10lbs dumbbells and 70 Squats using two 10lbs dumbbells. My prayer for today has been done and the scripture I have read is Matthews Chapter 12 NIV. Today I encourage you all to re-visit wounds on the inside that are still causing you pain and seek healing. Just as the Jonathan Mcreynolds song Cycles says "the devil he learns from your mistakes, even if you don't, that's how he keeps you in cycles." Check it out here! Therefore, let us resolve hidden issues from within and aim to end those cycles as you work on #BecomingaBetteryou and I work on #BecomingaBetterme #jointhemovement #keepgoing #dontgiveup #yougotthis

Friday, July 13, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 24

A guilty heart leads to a guilty conscious which can lead to a guilty spirit. A guilty heart can feel like a stabbing pain that won't go away. It can also feel like you are suffocating and can't breathe to save your life. To know that you have wronged someone intentionally or unintentionally in any shape or form, eats at your entire soul. Guilt as defined by Wikipedia is  "a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person believes or realizes—accurately or not—that he or she has compromised his or her own standards of conduct or has violated a universal moral standard and bears significant responsibility for that violation." Guilt can weigh you down both mentally and physically. You may feel great one moment but in the next feel consumed with the instant replays of "what if" scenarios. 

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Anger, hurt, neglect, selfish needs and gains can make you do some things that you will later regret. Love, life, desire, passion and the yearning to have fulfillment can cause you to make more than a few mistakes. Whenever people, feelings or the heart is involved, you are bound to have some mishaps and misfortunes intertwined with a lost spirit. However, the word says in Hebrews 8:12, "For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness and their sins and their lawless deeds I will remember no more." Which simply put says, that God loves us even when we do wrong and is there to give us mercy for the times we may have wronged someone. 

Transparent moment... my thoughts are not always pure and sometimes my mind takes me to places I have no business going. Even when I may not act on something in the physical form, the thoughts of my mind have already committed the sin. With the understanding in knowing that to think it, is just as bad as doing it, I have to pray daily and continuously for God to change my heart and my thoughts. Mark 7:20-23, "And he said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.” 

Today is Day 24 of the #BecomingaBettermechallenge and my workout today left me feeling beyond good! My whole body was the target today and LA Fitness was my bestfriend today. (Before doing any exercise please consult with your Doctor!) My workout today accompanied with my waist trainer included 15 minutes on the Elliptical, 40 Abdominal Oblique Crunches, 45 Hack/Squats with added weights of 25lbs on the Body Solid machine, 20 Push-ups, 2 minutes of Russian Twists and 40 Side Sit ups using the Hyperextension machine. I'm also still not eating bread or pasta and will continue to delete them both until the remainder of this challenge. My prayer has been completed for today and my scripture reading for today is Proverbs Chapter 21. If you or anyone you know is filled with guilt about something, I encourage you to cleanse your spirit by repenting first and asking God to help you and show you the way. Believe it or not but God is our only stronghold and just as he has the power to heal the body, he can also change your thoughts as well as your heart for the better. So as you work on #BecomingaBetteryou and I work on #BecomingaBetterme I pray that we all will learn to sin less and pray more! #jointhemovement #yougotthis #keepgoing #dontgiveup

Thursday, July 12, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 23

Victory is within the eyes of the beholder and the one who decides that they will fight until they can't fight anymore. Are you victorious? Do you look at the things in life deemed to defeat you and say "I got this"? Life brings us many obstacles but the way we deal with them says a lot about how strong our faith is. We all know how to praise God when great things are happening but do we praise God doing the bad times as well? You or someone you know may be dealing with a sickness, rather it be mentally or physically. Right now there may be nothing else that can be done, at-least in your eyes. At this very moment you may have decided to throw in the towel and accept what is and not fight it anymore. You're battling with your toughest opponent and all you want is to be victorious but you feel weak. You are afraid and starting to doubt God and your faith. You feel alone, even with the crowd of people that surround you.

On the outside you are smiling but on the inside you're drowning in misery, pain, confusion and despair. You are afraid of failing and afraid of what lies ahead. The tears no matter what you do, won't stop falling. Transparent moment...we all have battles we face daily, some tougher than others but no battle in my opinion, is tougher than the one where you have to fight for your life. I watched my God mother fight for her life while battling cancer years ago. What I admired most was her faith in God and the fact that even while on her death bed, she never lost hope. When it all boiled down she wasn't afraid of the battle she was given or even dying. However, she was concern with leaving her only child without a mother. My God mother was a true fighter and although she didn't win the battle from an external perspective, she was victorious because she refused to allow circumstance or her illness to turn her heart away from God.

Today is Day 23 of the #BecomingaBettermechallenge and my workout was short today. I did 15 minutes of Cycling with my RPM above 95, 60 Squats using two 10lbs dumbbells and 20 Push-ups. (Remember to consult with a Doctor before doing any exercises.) I've also took away bread and pasta to help push things further along and I'm still wearing my waist trainer during each workout. My prayer has been done for today but remember there is no limit for the amount of time you spend with God, the more the better. The scripture I will be reading today is 2 Corinthians Chapter 10 KJV/NIV. I pray that if you are in a battle right now internally or physically that you will continue to pray and fight a little longer. No one knows what the outcome will be but for everything there is a purpose. As you continue to work on #BecomingaBetteryou and I work on #BecomingaBetterme know that God will always be right beside you, helping you to stay lifted. Even when you think God is not near, trust that he always is. So I encouraged you to get others to #jointhemovement and for you to #keepgoing #dontgiveup because #yougotthis

Wednesday, July 11, 2018

Becoming a Better me - Day 22

The good, the bad and the ugly in being honest is that the heart is always involve. Honesty as described by Wikipedia "refers to a facet of moral character and connotes positive and virtuous attributes such as integrity, truthfulness, straightforwardness, along with the absence of lying, cheating, theft, etc." Being honest is the one thing that many people struggle with. I feel that it is a struggle because no one wants to intentionally hurt someone. It's also a struggle because many of us care a lot about how we are viewed in another person's eyes. Many of us are afraid of the outcomes when it comes to being honest. 

"The worst part about being lied to is knowing you weren't worth the truth."
-Quote by Unknown Source

The irony of it all is that everyone deserves honesty yet it is rarely ever given. Proverbs 12:17 says, an honest witness tells the truth, but a false witness tells lies. So why is it so easy to lie, especially when it comes to the people we claim to love? Yes, being honest can hurt in more ways than some but isn't the saying still true that "honesty is the best policy"? Could it be that sometimes honesty hurts because we simply don't approach speaking the truth in the correct way? How can it be so easy for us to look someone into their eyes and blankly lie to them? Luke 8:17 says, for there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open. 

Transparent moment...there was a time I was struggling with making a decision about a certain person in my life. I had been praying profusely for clarity and prayed for a sign that would tell me which way I should go. Years later I was given information about that particular person and the information given could have definitely assist me in my decision making. The person however with the information chose to with-hold the truth. What that person doesn't know is that if they had been honest with me they could have possibly changed the whole direction of my life. God does give us free will for sure, that is why we fall down sometimes but he also gives us strength to handle anything that may come our way. I encourage you all to always find delight in being honest and that if you struggle with honesty, that you pray and ask God to lead the way. 

Today is Day 22 of the #BecomingaBettermechallenge and I repeated most of yesterday's workout with a few additions. My workout today consisted of a quick stretch, 50 Jumping Jacks, 60 Squats using two 10lbs dumbbells, 30 Push-ups, 3 minute Russian Twists with elevated feet, 1 minute Plank, 1 minute Leg Flutters, 1 minute Scissors, 50 Crunches, 50 Reverse Crunches, 30 Arm Curls and 40 R/L Leg Lifts. My prayer for today has been completed and the scripture I will be reading today is Proverbs Chapter 12 NIV. We have all fallen short when it comes to honesty because even the "white lies" as we call them are lies. Or even if we chose to say nothing at all in relations to situations that would call for us to be honest, we are still choosing to with-hold the truth and that is still lying. As you work on #BecomingaBetteryou and I work on #BecomingaBetterme, I pray that we will all developed the strength of honesty because the truth will always set us free from anything holding us bondage such as guilt, shame, hurt and more. #keepgoing #yougotthis #dontgiveup and please continue to spread the word and get others to #jointhemovement God bless!